The Arbitrary Status-Quo of Beauty

I am a woman who whole-heartedly embraces my voluptuous shape- my tits, my ass, my thighs, and the curve of my hips are all something I rather enjoy. I do not have the body of a supermodel. Luckily, becoming a super model was never an aspiration of mine, so I don’t really give a fuck whether I look like one or not. BUT- I am only human. And we alllllll have our days. And this particular day was my day. “Do I look fat in this outfit?” I asked Britt, examining my shape in the mirror. 

She looked at me. “Ummm…no,” she answered. 

“Ok…” I wasn’t convinced. “But you would like, tell me if I did, right?” 

“I mean, I guess I would. But that would never happen.” 

Right answer, sis. Britt and I aren’t the kind of girls who toil or bother with body snarking to each other, the way some BFF’s do. This is something I feel has isolated me from girlfriends in the past. Inevitably, the conversation of “I hate my fat thighs and OMG my stomach is like getting huge” always comes up, and when it was my turn to hate on myself, I just never had anything to say regarding the matter. It seems that certain groups of girls do not appreciate this sort of confidence, and would rather widdle away their precious time on earth trying to conform to some arbitrary status quo of beauty that has been created by corporations and the advertising industry for the sole reason that we will purchase their products to aid us in our lifelong quest for perfection. We are the consumers and we are the majority. Why do we have to fit into their whack-ass mold and not the other way around? And now, a quote: “It is in our biology to trust what we see with our eyes. This makes living in a carefully edited, overproduced, and photoshopped world very dangerous.” - Brene Brown. End of rant/PSA. *Takes a bow*

Thrifted top and hat. Urban Outfitters jeans. Charlotte Russe booties.

Until next time,



  1. It's so true, faffing over body image is such a waste of time. Thanks for the reminder :)

  2. shit man, you look wicked hot, and I agree with Katie ( ^^) and you, body image stress is nonsense... xoxox

  3. I went browsing your pages and I have to say here that you have one of the original style on the Blogsphere! I love the whole vintage boho vibes I see here and you do it all so well! Fabulous and keep inspiring!

    MRS JACK OF ALL TRADES (a fashion and life-style blog)

  4. I am always in awe of your confidence and I wish I had more of it!

    Maria xxx

  5. it's crazy that we live in a society that actively encourages us, especially women, to pick ourselves apart and change and improve everything down to our most minute "flaws". it's wonderful to see someone who exudes confidence and loves herself and isn't afraid to shout it from the rooftops. and i mean look at thee photos, what's not to love when you're this gorgeous? love this post, such an important message.


  6. I so, so, so totally agree. I have so many friends (who, btw, are genuinely 60 pounds lighter than me, and I am not exaggerating) who complain all day about their fat arms and stomachs and this and that, and I can't get on board. Not only can I not get on board, because I happen to like myself, but also I'm like, if you're the skinniest thing ever and you think you look so fat, what does that make me, an actual "plus-size" person (as far as clothing sizes go anyway)?

    Also, you totally look like you could kick my ass in these photos. Could, and wouldn't hesitate.